when one person licks and kisses their partner's anus like oral sex on a female, except to the anus instead of the vagina Some people like to take a shower before doing this. This is a good idea since the anus carries bacteria that could make you sick. Some people don't like anal stimulation. It's always helpful to talk with your partner about what they like and don't like. It may not be for you. People have sex acts they like and those they don't. Sometimes your preferences will change over time.